Sophie Ellis-Bextor Shares Exclusive: No ‘Mum Guilt’ After Son Moves in with Her Mother at 19

Sophie Ellis-Bextor has revealed that she doesn’t suffer from ‘mum guilt’ despite her busy job not always allowing her to be present for her five children.

The singer, 44, told MailOnline that after years of working relentlessly hard for her music career she has finally given herself permission to enjoy it, rather than worry over the times she was absent from her family.

Now Sophie hopes that her kids, two of whom are teenagers, will be inspired by her drive as she says that being a working mother in fact makes her a better parent.

Earlier this month, the pop star revealed that her 19-year-old son has moved out of their family home to live with her mother, Janet Ellis, 68, describing the new arrangement as ‘wholesome.’ 

Reflecting on falling pregnant with Sonny just six weeks after she started dating musician husband Richard Jones, 44, Sophie says that their life together has always been as a three.

Sophie Ellis-Bextor has revealed that she doesn't suffer from 'mum guilt' despite her busy job not always allowing her to be present for her five children

Sophie Ellis-Bextor has revealed that she doesn’t suffer from ‘mum guilt’ despite her busy job not always allowing her to be present for her five children 

The singer told MailOnline that after years of working relentlessly hard for her music career she has finally given herself permission to enjoy it

The singer told MailOnline that after years of working relentlessly hard for her music career she has finally given herself permission to enjoy it 

Sophie hopes that her kids, two of whom are teenagers, will be inspired by her drive as she says that being a working mother in fact makes her a better parent

Sophie hopes that her kids, two of whom are teenagers, will be inspired by her drive as she says that being a working mother in fact makes her a better parent 

Reflecting on falling pregnant with Sonny just six weeks after she started dating musician husband Richard Jones Sophie says that their life together has always been as a three

Reflecting on falling pregnant with Sonny just six weeks after she started dating musician husband Richard Jones Sophie says that their life together has always been as a three

But after adding to their family, with the married couple of 18 years sharing five sons together, Sophie revealed that they are content watching them grow up and having a sixth is out of the question. 

Sophie said: ‘Like for every working parent, it is a bit of an ongoing thing, I don’t think you ever have it totally nailed, happily for me I love family life, I love my job and I have really good support where I need it for both things.

‘But the hardest part of my job is when I have to be away from them for long periods… the big picture is I really love what I do, and I have worked quite hard to do what I do, I might as well not waste it feeling guilty.

‘Even at the age of 44 I am still giving myself permission to do the thing I love because it does mean that there are certain times where I can’t be everywhere for my children, but I am a better mum for doing what I do, and I involve my kids quite a lot.

‘The older they have got, the more I appreciate that them seeing me do what I love is probably going to teach them some things about work ethic, plus it’s a creative house, which is good fun.’

Sophie met her husband, a bassist who went onto front The Feeling, in 2002 and six weeks later, she found out she was pregnant with their first son, Sonny.

Since then, the couple have become parents to ​Kit, 14, Ray, ten, ​Jesse, eight, and their youngest, Mickey, four, and Sophie says her family is finally complete, as she looks back on their ‘happy ending.’

She said: ‘My situation was a bit unusual because in my friendship group I was the first one to have a baby… I was 24 when I found out I was having my first.

As well as being a mum to Sonny, Sophie also shares ​Kit, Ray, ​Jesse, and Mickey with husband of 18 years Richard

As well as being a mum to Sonny, Sophie also shares ​Kit, Ray, ​Jesse, and Mickey with husband of 18 years Richard

Sophie found out she was expecting her first baby just six weeks after she started dating Richard, as she reminisces about their 'happy ending'

Sophie found out she was expecting her first baby just six weeks after she started dating Richard, as she reminisces about their ‘happy ending’

The singer and bassist have decided that 'five is plenty' and they will not be having anymore children, with Sophie saying they are 'content' watching them grow

The singer and bassist have decided that ‘five is plenty’ and they will not be having anymore children, with Sophie saying they are ‘content’ watching them grow 

‘It was an amazing adventure and for as long as Richard and I have been together there have been three of us, we had only been going out for six weeks when we found out we were having a baby… it was a bit of a surprise but luckily also a happy ending.

‘We are just watching them grow up now… it’s not something that I’m thinking about. I feel very happy, I love my family, I love my kids, and five is plenty!’

During a recent appearance on This Morning, Sophie revealed that Sonny has moved in with her mother Janet, who lives 10 minutes away.

Sophie says that she’s enjoying being a mum to two teenagers, and admits when she was growing up, her mum was always approachable, and she hopes to be the same.

She said: ‘I have a couple of teenagers now… my oldest will be 20 next year.

‘I really like it, I have liked all stages, the only thing I say to people with teenagers are they might not think that they need you as much, but they definitely do.

‘It is finding your way to be present in what they’re up to without making them feel cornered or challenged about anything.

‘My mum was always really good with me, she kept the communication open, and I think that’s the key thing really.’

Sophie revealed earlier this month that the couple's oldest child Sonny has moved out of their family home to live 10 minutes away with Sophie's mum (pictured in November)

Sophie revealed earlier this month that the couple’s oldest child Sonny has moved out of their family home to live 10 minutes away with Sophie’s mum (pictured in November)  

Sophie has partnered with McCain on their latest campaign to launch the brand's new baby Hasselback potatoes, posing on top of a glitter disco ball with the food in hand

Sophie has partnered with McCain on their latest campaign to launch the brand’s new baby Hasselback potatoes, posing on top of a glitter disco ball with the food in hand 

Sophie says McCain's new baby Hasselback potatoes are a winner in her household including with husband Richard, whose father is a professional chef

Sophie says McCain’s new baby Hasselback potatoes are a winner in her household including with husband Richard, whose father is a professional chef 

As a mother of five, the podcaster says routine is essential, particularly at dinner time, with the family sitting down to eat together every day at 5:30pm.

And she says McCain’s new baby Hasselback potatoes are a winner in her household including with husband Richard, whose father is a professional chef.

Sophie has partnered with McCain on their latest campaign to launch the new potatoes, posing on top of a glitter disco ball with the food in hand.

The brand has also conducted research that says three in five people (60 per cent) eat exactly the same dinner up to four times a week while half the nation (50 per cent) say they lack inspiration for midweek meals.

Sophie, who released the cookbook Recipes from the Kitchen Disco last year, says her family’s love of food and commitment to eating together means they often need ‘one main ingredient’ to build their dinner around.

She said: ‘We already as a household are big fans of McCain, as soon as they approached me, I checked my freezer and honestly every bit of frozen potato had their name on it and funnily enough why I wanted to do this campaign is because my brother introduced me to Hasselback potatoes not that long ago and they are really delicious.

‘We are a mixture in our house, we did a cookbook last year and anyone that knows us will know that we love food, Richard is a really good cook, he’s the son of a chef actually and I love cooking as well. 

‘But we’re a busy household and sometimes you are stuck thinking what tonight? Sometimes you just need one thing as the main ingredient to build your meal around.’

  • McCain Hasselback potatoes are skin-on, whole baby potatoes that are pre-sliced for a feel good wow factor then slow baked for flavour and crispiness, presenting the perfect solution to those struggling with the monotony of boring midweek meals. Available now at Tesco, ASDA, Sainsbury’s, Morrisons, Waitrose, Iceland and Co Op, RRP of ÂŁ3.69

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