The lead frontwoman of a popular band has revealed the harrowing details of an alleged 'abusive' relationship she had with a US rock star.
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Musician exposes abusive relationship with rock star
The lead frontwoman of a popular Los Angeles band has revealed the harrowing details of an alleged 'abusive' relationship she had with a US rock star.Dorothy Ma...
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Dorothy Martin, the lead singer of the rock band Dorothy, claims she was once trapped in a partnership with a 'sadistic' world-renowned musician from another popular band.
The singer, 39, tells Daily Mail that while she legally can't name her alleged abuser, she wishes to help other women by sharing her experiences.
Dorothy says that for the duration of this prior secret relationship, her life looked like a whirlwind of music, fame and freedom.
But behind closed doors, she claims she was battling a deeply toxic relationship with a powerful man.
'He was... famous and successful. I won't say his name because this isn't about him,' she says.
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The lead frontwoman of a popular Los Angeles band has revealed the harrowing details of an alleged 'abusive' relationship she had with a US rock star
'This is about giving survivors the strength to leave and recover from abuse,' she adds.
Dorothy says many assume her off-stage life is full of excess and excitement – but the truth couldn't have been more different.
Instead, she found herself trapped in a psychologically abusive relationship that left her emotionally shattered.
She claims: 'I knew things weren't right because his actions and words wouldn't line up. He would gaslight and lie to keep me off balance.
'He made promises of love and a future, but once he gained my trust he treated me with contempt and cruelty.
'The emotional and psychological abuse wrecked my nervous system.'
The singer says toxic partners often don't show their true colours straight away.
'They mirror you, love-bomb you and get you hooked,' she says.
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Dorothy Martin, 39, the lead singer of the rock band Dorothy, claims she was once trapped in a partnership with a 'sadistic' world-renowned musician from another popular band
Dorothy is best known by fans for her bluesy vocals, with acclaimed albums to her name such as ROCKISDEAD and Gifts From the Holy Ghost. Pictured with Dolly Parton
After finally breaking free, she began the slow process of rebuilding her life.
'There was a grieving process. I grieved the person I thought he was and the future I thought we were going to have. Going no contact was imperative,' she says.
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Now, Dorothy says she is determined to help other women do the same and break away from abusive relationships.
'Leaving an abuser is one of the hardest things and most important things you'll do,' she says.
'We often feel impaired, as abusers typically convince victims they are the problem. Be gentle with yourself and leave as safely and strategically as possible.
'Have an exit plan and don't announce it. Trust the pattern, not their words.
'For those who believe in God, I believe one of the most powerful prayers is: "God if you didn't send this person, remove them or remove me."
'You don't have to deal with leaving the relationship alone, even if it feels that way.
'Reach out to one person or service you trust, whether it's a friend, family member, or a specialist support line, and work out your best exit plan.
'Help is there for this exact situation, and asking for it can be the first real step toward leaving safely.'
Dorothy adds: 'My message to women is simple. You are loved. You are worthy. You deserve so much more. Do not be afraid to walk away.'
The Hungarian-born singer-songwriter is the frontwoman of LA-based rock band Dorothy, which formed in 2014.
Dorothy is best known by fans for her bluesy vocals and unapologetic rock style, with acclaimed albums to her name such as ROCKISDEAD and Gifts From the Holy Ghost.
If you need someone to talk to about domestic violence, call 1800RESPECT or visit White Ribbon Australia's website. In an emergency, call 000.
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