This Morning star Michelle Elman broke down in tears on Monday as she revealed she has split from her fiancé after he cheated on her.
The life coach and author, 30, who has frequently appeared on the ITV show to give advice about relationships, took to her Instagram to explain that she had ended engagement after just 24 hours.
Michelle had previously announced her engagement with her boyfriend of almost three years with a photo of the couple on her social media.
However, she explained that the same day one of her followers messaged her to reveal that he had been cheating on Michelle with her.
The TV star teared up as she declared that her partner had ‘f***ed up’ and ‘ruined a really good thing’, but insisted she was going to be OK.
This Morning star Michelle Elman broke down in tears on Monday as she revealed she has split from her fiancé after he cheated on her
The life coach and author, 30, who has frequently appeared on the ITV show to give advice about relationships, took to her Instagram to explain that she had ended engagement after just 24 hours (pictured on This Morning last week)
Michelle had previously announced her engagement with her boyfriend of almost three years with a photo of the couple on her social media
Explaining her absence from social media, Michelle began: ‘I don’t know how to make this video so I’m just going to get into it. The last you heard from me I was engaged and I’m not anymore.
‘The day I posted that engagement photo is the day I found out he had been cheating on me and one of the women he was cheating on me with actually followed me and that’s how I found out.
‘She’s a lovely woman, and she didn’t know, and you’ve got to love his taste in women. You’ve got to laugh. We’re laughing and crying a lot over here.’
She continued: ‘The main thing people always say with cheating is “Did you know?” And obviously not because I said yes to marrying him.
‘But also does it matter? I think what I’ve realised through all of this is if someone wants to actively deceive you they will.
‘When it comes to life coaches there’s this illusion that we’re perfect, we’re all knowing or that we have our lives together and it’s just not true.
‘I’ve always said I’m just five steps ahead and that’s how I am able to teach other people. The only difference is I have all the tools and resources to make sure I’m okay right now and that I know I’m going to learn from this.’
Tearing up, Michelle said: ‘My own life coach says we never let a good crisis go to waste, and this is a crisis. I think I am a good life coach because I f*** up more than you and I learn from it.’
However, she explained that the same day one of her followers messaged her to reveal that he had been cheating on Michelle with her
The TV star teared up as she declared that her partner had ‘f***ed up’ and ‘ruined a really good thing’, but insisted she was going to be OK
Breaking down, she corrected herself and said: ‘Actually, let me rephrase that one because I didn’t f**k up – he did. And he ruined a really good thing. And it was a good thing – when it was good, it was really good.’
Michelle became a motivational coach after living through her own childhood experiences of life-threatening health problems, long stays in hospital and fifteen complex surgeries that left her scarred, both mentally and physically.
She had a brain tumour, a punctured intestine, an obstructed bowel, a cyst in her brain and a condition called Hydrocephalus, and often shares photos of her scars to inspire others to be confident.
Addressing her followers who have followed her journey, she said: ‘I know a lot of people follow me for positive representation around dating and then healthy relationships and knowing that you have chronic illnesses or are plus size, all the things that I am, you can also find love.
‘And for those people listening, please keep that hope because I still believe in love. I still believe it’s worth it and to be honest if I could go back and swipe right, knowing how it would end I would still go back and make the same decision.’
Michelle – who kept her ex-boyfriend’s identity private until their engagement – also asked her followers not to try and track him down, saying she had forgiven him almost ‘instantly’ as while their relationship was over, she still loved him.
She explained: ‘This was a person I loved for many years and still do love in many ways and so calling him names or chucking the ring out or pouring his wine down the sink, or any other suggestions have not been helping me.
‘And frankly I wouldn’t be a life coach if I didn’t believe people could learn and grow from their mistakes. It was a pretty f***ing big mistake, but it was a mistake and people are not their behaviours.’
Michelle became a motivational coach after living through her own childhood experiences of life-threatening health problems, long stays in hospital and fifteen complex surgeries that left her scarred, both mentally and physically
She had a brain tumour, a punctured intestine, an obstructed bowel, a cyst in her brain and a condition called Hydrocephalus, and often shares photos of her scars to inspire others to be confident
Michelle – who kept her ex-boyfriend’s identity private until their engagement – also asked her followers not to try and track him down, saying she had forgiven him almost ‘instantly’ as while their relationship was over, she still loved him
Replying to a fan who asked if she had considered forgiving her ex, Michelle elaborated: ‘I already do forgive him. It was pretty much instant for me because he is the person who has loved me most in the world and this has really taught me that unconditional love does exist because I do still love him.
‘The love is unconditional, the relationship is not and I won’t be staying but I do forgive him.
‘I’ve been comparing it to a bank account. All the love he has poured into me in the last 3 years has put coins in the bank, his cheating drained the bank account but I’m not leaving the relationship in debt ❤️’
At the end of her video, Michelle put on a brave face and said she was ‘healing’, as she said: ‘All of this f***ing sucks but I always say this or something better. So I guess I’m due something better.’
She added: ‘And another sentence that’s been helping me is that you know how everyone says you are who you attract? I just don’t believe that’s true, it’s not about who you attract, its who you keep.
‘So I am single and can’t wait to share part of my single journey at some point, but for the moment I am definitely healing.’
Taking one last sly dig at her ex, she quipped: ‘I mean you’ve got to laugh, I was engaged for 24 hours. At least the ring was beautiful. Even if it didn’t fit.’
Captioning the clip, she penned: ‘This is where I’ve been. This is the longest I’ve gone without posting in over a decade and I’ve missed you. I’m OK (or at least, I will be!) and I’m ready to come back.
At the end of her video, Michelle put on a brave face and said she was ‘healing’, as she said: ‘All of this f***ing sucks but I always say this or something better. So I guess I’m due something better’
Captioning the clip, she penned: ”I’m really putting my heart on my sleeve here and this is the most vulnerable I have ever got on here. Sending love to anyone who has a similar story. Onwards and upwards ❤️’
‘One of the main reasons I waited so long to share him is because I never wanted to make this kind of video and yet I don’t regret it because that’s how I found out and wow, am I so glad I did. So grateful to the wonderful woman who was brave enough to send me a message letting me know.
‘I’m really putting my heart on my sleeve here and this is the most vulnerable I have ever got on here. Sending love to anyone who has a similar story. Onwards and upwards ❤️’.
Michelle later took to her Instagram Stories to thank her followers for their outpouring of support with a selfie, and explained that she was on a solo holiday.
The writer also revealed that the couple had been trying for a baby for several months before they had split, and said she had begun dating while away.
She wrote: ‘I’m so overcome by all the love. Thank you for all the kindness. Do you remember when I said I was going to book a solo trip?
‘The part I didn’t tell you is because we had been trying for a bay for three months so I wanted to do it before I was pregnant.
‘So I’m on the solo trip now. Coming back tomorrow. Grateful I’m not pregnant and also have gone on dates while here.’
Michelle had been single for eight years when she began dating her former partner in August 2021.
Michelle later took to her Instagram Stories to thank her followers for their outpouring of support and reveal that the couple had been trying for a baby for several months before they had split
Michelle had been single for eight years when she began dating her former partner in August 2021 (pictured)
Opening up about their relationship back in November, she shared a picture of them swimming together and explained he had been her first date after the pandemic
Opening up about their relationship back in November, she shared a picture of them swimming together and explained he had been her first date after the pandemic.
She wrote: ‘I’ve always hated the narrative of ‘I knew’ so to be clear, I didn’t know on the first date. I didn’t know a year in. It took me a long time to be sure and that’s not him a problem.
‘For years, I had a faulty picker when it came to the men in my life so I took this slow, careful and purposely didn’t project a future together and focused on living in the moment.
‘This year I also wrote a book about him, just joking it’s not about him its about the eight years I was single. How I learned to date without feeling bad about myself. The last chapter was about him.
‘When you’re single you think being in a relationship is going to change your life but it’s just not the case. Life is about peaks and troughs. He’s a bright spark in the trough, and it’s nice to have someone to tell the details to in your life.’
Writing for the Daily Mail in January last year, Michelle explained that her first relationship had been ’emotionally abusive’ and that she had dated ‘a slew of awful men’.
She penned: ‘Yet I stayed with some of them because I thought I was lucky to have any relationship. Women who look like me can’t be picky, I thought — and I’d sit, phone in my hand, waiting desperately for a crumb of a text.’
She explained she realised how unhappy she was and changed her dating strategy and outlook.
Michelle wrote: ‘Today, I am in a relationship with someone who values me for who I am and doesn’t call me ‘high-maintenance’ the moment I ask for my needs to be met.
‘Is it the fairytale? I can’t say (I don’t think anyone truly can) but what I can say is that it is far healthier than any relationship I could have imagined for myself ten years ago.’
Writing for the Daily Mail in January last year, Michelle explained that her first relationship had been ’emotionally abusive’ and that she had dated ‘a slew of awful men’
