Valerie Bertinelli got candid about the missteps in her love life just months after her November split from writer Mike Goodnough.

The One Day at a Time star took to Instagram on Monday to share an emotional reflection, acknowledging that her perspective comes from ‘two failed marriages’ and admitting, ‘I fumbled the last true good man I met.’

‘Change, real change, never happens through criticism, shame, or pressure,’ The actress wrote alongside a close-up selfie. 

‘I think we all just want to do better and feel awful when we’ve hurt someone we love, and shame prevents us from thinking clearly,’ she continued.

She went on to add, ‘Wouldn’t it be nice to relieve the one you love from shame so they can truly give you the amends you’re looking for?’

Her heartfelt message also comes more than two years after finalizing her divorce from ex-husband Tom Vitale. 

Valerie Bertinelli got candid about the missteps in her love life just months after her November split from writer Mike Goodnough; (seen March 2024)

The One Day at a Time star took to Instagram on Monday to share an emotional reflection, acknowledging that her perspective comes from ‘two failed marriages’ and admitting, ‘I fumbled the last true good man I met,’; (seen with Mike Goodnough in June 29024)

Before that, she was married to the late Eddie Van Halen from 1981 to 2007. 

In her Instagram post, Bertinelli acknowledged that rising above pain and anger isn’t easy, but letting go of those emotions, she suggested, could open the door to the apology, amends, or closure one ‘deserves.’

‘If you stop focusing on what they did wrong and instead approach with empathy and understanding, everything can then start to shift.’

Bertinelli first met Vitale in 2004 and the pair later became engaged in 2010. The former said ‘I do’ in January 2011 before she filed for legal separation in November 2021. 

Last year during an emotional Instagram video, the star expressed that she was ‘doing her best to heal’ following the split – and added that she was ‘over the narcissist.’ 

While on the topic of physical therapy, the star said, ‘I believe that a lot of emotional pain is stored in the body, and I’m doing my best to heal from it in every way – my therapy, my journaling, my meditation, rolfing.’ 

The actress then told her followers that, ‘I am over it. I’m over the narcissist. I’m long over the narcissist.’  

And earlier last year, Valerie also reflected on Instagram about feeling ‘free’ shortly after the divorce was finalized. 

‘Change, real change, never happens through criticism, shame, or pressure,’ she wrote alongside a close-up selfie.\

Her heartfelt message comes more than two years after finalizing her divorce from ex-husband Tom Vitale

She had penned at the time, ‘There is so much to look forward to now, when before it just looked endlessly sad, scary, lonely and stressful.’ 

The TV personality then explained that although she has, ‘no idea what’s ahead for me,’ the star is, ‘not worried. I’m free.’ 

Bertinelli was previously married to Eddie Van Halen from 1981 until their split in 2007. During the course of their marriage, they welcomed son Wolfgang, 33. 

Her latest Instagram post comes not long after it was revealed that she had split from boyfriend, Mike Goodnough, after 10 months of dating. 

Earlier this year in March, the actress expressed that she was dating – but did not initially disclose who. 

While talking to USA Today at the time, Valerie stated, ‘I’ve met someone. And I’m incredibly grateful for him. It’s unlike any relationship that I’ve ever experienced with a man.’ 

‘I don’t want to say too much, but I feel incredibly blessed and lucky to have met him, because I wasn’t expecting it!

Her latest Instagram post comes not long after it was revealed that she had split from boyfriend, Mike Goodnough, after 10 months of dating; seen in June in L.A. 

While talking to USA Today at the time, Valerie stated, ‘I’ve met someone. And I’m incredibly grateful for him. It’s unlike any relationship that I’ve ever experienced with a man’

‘He was not on my radar. I was going to die with my six cats and my dog and be incredibly happy doing it. So this came out of left field, and I’m grateful it did. He’s very special,’ she further gushed. 

In April, she told People that Mike – who is a writer – is 10 years younger than her, adding that he is also ‘mature, kind, thoughtful, and patient.’ 

That same month, the pair went Instagram official and walked the red carpet together for the first time in June. 

Valerie and Mike navigated through a long-distance relationship when they were dating, and she previously admitted that it was ‘challenging.’ 

Sources recently told DailyMail.com about the red flag that prompted Bertinelli to split from the writer – and said she feared he was only ‘captivated’ by her fame. 

Sources recently told DailyMail.com about the red flag that prompted Bertinelli to split from the writer – and said she feared he was only ‘captivated’ by her fame

‘Valerie jumped into a serious relationship with a man who initially commented on her social media post, which should have been a red flag.’ 

‘She essentially became involved with a fan rather than someone who genuinely wanted to know her for who she is. He seemed more captivated by her fame,’ the insider added. 

‘Valerie recognized this before things went too far, and she’s doing okay,’ the source continued. 

‘Her friends had concerns from the start. Moving forward, she’ll need to be more cautious with her heart.’