Tulisa Contostavlos has revealed that she has ended her three years of celibacy and hinted at finally finding love, months after coming out as demisexual.
During her I’m A Celeb appearance last year the singer, 37, revealed her orientation – which is based on based on emotional connection rather than physical attraction – but admitted the thought of being with someone still made her feel ‘physically sick’.
At the peak of her fame, Tulisa endured a very high-profile 2012 court case after her ex boyfriend Justin Edwards released a sex tape of her, leaving her traumatised and ‘impacting her relationships to this day’.
She previously told how she felt ‘judged, disgusting and ashamed’ because of the ordeal and due to revenge porn was not being illegal at the time, she only managed to get a court apology from him.
But while appearing Jaime Laing’s Great Company podcast on Thursday, Tulisa revealed she was no longer celibate, but reiterated that for her finding someone attractive was ‘few and far between’.
She said: ‘People [think I was celibate because] there is some kind of vow I made to god, or to myself, I just am very picky,’
Tulisa Contostavlos has revealed that she has ended her three years of celibacy and hinted at finally finding love, months after coming out as demisexual (pictured on Friday)
The singer, 37, revealed her orientation – which is based on based on emotional connection rather than physical attraction – but the thought of being with someone made her feel ‘sick’
At the peak of her fame, Tulisa endured a very high-profile court case after her ex released a sex tape of her, leaving her traumatised and ‘impacting her relationships to this day’ (pictured outside court 2012)
‘Finding someone I like is very few and far between and then if I do someone that I like, I can feel physical attraction to you I can be very flirtatious but I don’t think about having sex with them until I start building quite a deep emotional emotional and it take a long time to get to that place’.
‘It’s less about me going “no I don’t want to have sex with anyone” it was case that there was no one I wanted to have sex with, I just didn’t want to’.
When host Jamie asked if she saw her body as sacred, Tulisa replied: ‘Yeah, I think all woman are sacred and they should be worshipped a lot more so than they are being treated in today’s society’.
‘You’re also taking on other people’s energy when you’re sleeping around, you don’t realise the things – aside from STDs- the other things you’re putting into your body, the energy has got to be right when you’re having that exchange and it should be about the connection’.
Last year Tulisa admitted she’s had ‘periods of being asexual’, which is someone who doesn’t experience sexual attraction to people of any gender, during her appearance on Paul C Brunson’s We Need To Talk podcast.
She said: ‘I’ve had periods of being asexual in my life, periods. I’ve been told that I’m sapiosexual as well, very much attracted to intelligence.’
She added: ‘I can look at someone and think they have a cute face but I don’t get any tingles. I don’t think about sex.
‘I can look at someone and think “Wow you’re stunning”, but for me attraction is I have to want to kiss someone or be physical with someone.’
She previously told how she felt ‘judged, disgusting and ashamed’ because of the ordeal
But while appearing Jaime Laing’s Great Company podcast, Tulisa revealed she was no longer celibate, but reiterated that finding someone attractive was ‘few and far between’
‘It’s less about me going “no I don’t want to have sex with anyone” it was case that there was no one I wanted to have sex with, I just didn’t want to’
When host Jamie asked if she saw her body as sacred, Tulisa replied: ‘Yeah, I think all woman are sacred and they should be worshipped a lot more so than they are being treated’
Tulisa first spoke about her celibacy in the I’m A Celeb jungle last year (pictured)
Speaking about her celibacy, she joked: ‘Three years and four months, but who’s counting.
‘I haven’t got to the point where I’m like this is it. It’s hard to word things without giving away too much about your own current love life.’
Tulisa went onto insist that she is single as she ‘doesn’t want to be in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship’.
Asked if she believes in love, she replied: ‘I think love is all about perception and I think one person’s perception of love wouldn’t be the same as my perception.
‘Real love for me is time and loyalty, choosing someone every day. That for me is love. I have it in a lot of friendships.’
Tulisa is leaving no stone unturned in her upcoming autobiography, detailing her battle with addiction, two suicide attempts and her sex tape scandal.
She vowed to be ‘brutally honest’ in the tome, titled Judgement: Love, Trials and Tribulations, and has stayed true to her word.
According to The Mirror, the N-Dubz star charts her ‘year from hell’ amid her drug sting trial, which led to two suicide attempts.
She penned of the day she found out she was going to be charged on suspicion of being involved with the supply of Class A drugs: ‘Why is this happening to me?
‘What’s the point in being alive just to be miserable? How am I ever going to find happiness after this? Even if I’m found innocent, I’ll be empty inside by the time I get to the end of it, and my life will be ruined.’
Thankfully, she was found by former best friend Gareth Varey who called an ambulance after finding her in her bathroom surrounded by empty packets of sleeping pills.
Tulisa’s ex Justin Edwards – who she had broken up with in 2009 – released a sex tape of her in 2012 during the height of her fame (Justin pictured at court in 2012)
Tulisa is leaving no stone unturned in her upcoming autobiography, detailing her battle with addiction, two suicide attempts and her sex tape scandal
She detailed her battle with addiction, suicide attempts and her heartbreaking response to her sex tape scandal in the tome, titled Judgement: Love, Trials and Tribulations
While Tulisa was revived, she made a second attempt on her life months later amid her trial, which resulted in her being hospitalised for three days.
Throughout any challenging times, Tulisa would try and comfort herself by locking herself in the bathroom.
She explained: ‘When I was a child, the bathroom was the only room in my house with a lock. I had always locked myself in there in times of distress, whether it was because my parents were going at it like two bulls in a china shop again, or my mentally ill mother was going off the rails. It had always been my place of safety.
‘And twenty years later, here I was: back lying on the bathroom floor. Deep-rooted issues, I suppose. When the sex tape had come out, I had slept on the bathroom floor for five days.’
Elsewhere in the book, Tulisa also revealed that while she suffered from depression she became addicted to sleeping tablets and benzodiazepines, a habit she broke free from last year after she ‘found her peace and faith’.
Tulisa’s memoir documents her rise to prominence and subsequent fall from grace after being targeted by the disgraced ‘Fake Sheikh’, Mazher Mahmood.
The singer later admitted her life ‘fell apart’ following an elaborate sting that resulted in her being arrested on suspicion of supplying Class A drugs, an accusation she vehemently denied.
As the drama played out in court, Tulisa opted to keep a journal in which she detailed the toll her trial had taken on her personal life, and the devastating impact it had on her career.
Released by Blink Publishing for Bonnier Books UK, Judgement is now available to purchase.
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