The Bachelorette's Ryan Sutter addresses rumors about marriage

The Bachelorette alum Ryan Sutter took to Instagram on Wednesday with an expansive post describing the efforts he and spouse Trista Sutter apply to their lives, amid recent speculation about the health of their two-decade marriage.

‘We do our best – to do and to be good, to live and to treat others well,’ said the Colorado native, 49, who shares two kids with Trista, 51: son Maxwell, 16, and daughter Blakesley, 15.

Ryan, who wed Trista in a televised ceremony in December of 2003 after they crossed paths on ABC’s The Bachelorette, accompanied the post with a black and white image of him sitting on a beach, from behind.

Ryan continued in his post, ‘We make decisions not knowing the outcome but hoping we’re on the right path – hoping the questions will be answered in time.

‘We try to be a positive example, to care, to trust the process and to believe others will trust our intent is not malicious or misguided or mean.’

Ryan said he and Trista ‘do our best to live towards a purpose- to build meaningful relationships and experiences and to contribute to a common good.’

Ryan indirectly touched on life in the public eye and trying to keep everything leveled on a day-to-day basis.

‘We do our best to remain easy in a difficult world, to be honest in deceitful times and to be open when it’s safer to stay closed,’ Ryan said. ‘We seek balance – teetering mostly back and forth but sometimes…. Sometimes we land in just the right spot.’

Ryan said that recent unnamed developments have led him and his spouse to appreciate life’s basic moments and continue to do their best.

‘Sometimes there are moments, moments like this one, in which we get a glimpse of just how beautiful life can be – how beautiful it is when we take time to appreciate the places and the people in them,’ Ryan said. ‘To appreciate what and who we love most.’

He wrapped up his post in saying, ‘They are always out there – these moments – though not always easy to find. But we do our best….’

Trista shared a colorized version of the shot and the same text in a post she put up on Wednesday.

‘I couldn’t have said it any better so, with permission, I’m sharing his beautiful words,’ she said.

Trista shared a colorized version of the shot and the same text in a post she put up on Wednesday

Ryan on Sunday took to the site with a shot of the family at the beach, acknowledging his wife’s absence for a time

Ryan and Trista tied the knot in December 2003 after she chose him on the season finale of The Bachelorette. Pictured in 2016

Ryan on Sunday took to the site with a shot of the family at the beach, acknowledging his wife’s absence for a time, saying ‘Welcome back’ and ‘We missed you.’

He said, ‘They say absence makes the heart grow fonder…. We found out it’s true. It also makes the heart more grateful, more sympathetic, more appreciative for what someone does for you, with you, alongside of you.

‘It brings questions and wonder and worry and then answers and peace and celebration.’

Ryan said the absence ‘brought time for reflection, for projects, prayer and independence but mostly it brought joy at its conclusion. Real joy. And that’s really what it’s all about…’

Ryan’s latest social media sentiments came days after Trista shared family photos ‘from a beach in Mexico’ on Saturday after Ryan sparked concern with a series of cryptic posts about missing his wife of 20 years.

‘Geez people. Can’t a girl have a nervous breakdown/trial separation/midlife crisis/death/divorce in peace around here?!’ she jokingly started in the caption with winking and laughing emojis.

‘In all seriousness, for those concerned, I’m safe and sound, happy and healthy, in love and grateful,’ wrote Trista. ‘For those who’d rather focus on being critical and searching way too hard for darkness, good luck with that.’

She explained that an ‘opportunity for perspective and personal growth’ came up, adding: ‘With the unconditional support of my family and friends, I chose myself and betterment, knowing that my stay-at-home-mom job and my kids end-of-the-school-year needs were in the best, most capable hands.’

Trista Sutter, 51, shared family photos ‘from a beach in Mexico’ on Saturday after husband Ryan Sutter sparked concern with a series of cryptic posts about missing his wife of 21 years

‘My stoic husband who usually chooses privacy over posting, decided to share his love for me in messages that would find me in my travels,’ she continued. ‘We look at Instagram like a digital diary.’

Trista wrote, ‘Most of the time, the world doesn’t pay too much attention. This time, he couldn’t say anything right and just about every news outlet picked up his “cryptic/confusing/attention-seeking/dramatic” pictures and captions.’

The former Miami Heat dancer said her husband’s posts were ‘exactly what my Words of Affirmation love language needed to get me through some serious self doubt and fear… and that’s all that matters.’

‘He doesn’t owe anyone any explanation or require permission to post what he wants to post and share what he wants to share,’ wrote Trista.

‘If you want to know the rest of the story, I will share in due time,’ she added. ‘For now, it’s back to our regularly scheduled programming – from a beach in Mexico!’

She jokingly concluded, ‘After all, nervous breakdowns and separations require much needed rest and relaxation!’

Trista also shared some photos to her Instagram Story of her family on the beach, including one of Ryan sleeping in a hammock.

The proud mom also posted snaps of son Maxwell and daughter Blakesley enjoying the family vacation.

After posting about Trista not being there for Mother’s Day and how he wants to ‘hear your voice,’ Ryan shared his own explanation last weekend.

‘Geez people. Can’t a girl have a nervous breakdown/trial separation/midlife crisis/death/divorce in peace around here?!’ she jokingly started in the caption with winking and laughing emojis; the two seen in 2019

Trista also shared some photos to her Instagram Story of her family on the beach, including one of Ryan sleeping in a hammock

The proud mom also posted snaps of son Maxwell Alston, 16, and 15-year-old daughter Blakesley Grace enjoying the family vacation

After posting about Trista not being there for Mother’s Day and how he wants to ‘hear your voice,’ Ryan shared his own explanation last weekend

Trista and Ryan tied the knot in December 2003 after she chose him on the season one finale of The Bachelorette

‘Trista is fine. We are fine. We’re great. Trista is at a place in life where she is searching a bit,’ he wrote in part on Instagram.

‘An opportunity presented itself that may help her on that quest. With her family’s support, she has taken it. Part of that process means that she is temporarily inaccessible to us,’ added Ryan. ‘I miss her. We miss her.’

Trista was the runner-up on the first season of The Bachelor before she was chosen to lead up the gender-flipped spin-off The Bachelorette.

She and Ryan tied the knot in December 2003 after she chose him on the season finale.

The couple resides in Colorado with their family, where Trista works as a physical therapist and Ryan is a firefighter.