Married At First Sight expert has died aged 54, surrounded by her family, after a heartbreaking battle with .
The Australian psychologist-turned-dating expert spent her final days at the London home she shared with her husband of eight years, Gareth, and their 10-year-old daughter Maddie, after saying her goodbyes to close friends in a series of emotional visits during her final week.
Mel was first diagnosed with colon cancer in 2023 and underwent treatment while continuing to film the UK version of Married At First Sight.
After initially being given the all clear, she later revealed her cancer had metastasised to her lungs in early 2024, before tragically spreading to her brain over 2025.
Her husband confirmed her death in an emotional Instagram statement on Tuesday, revealing her final act was one of love.
'In her final moments, when I thought cancer had taken away her ability to speak, she ushered me closer and whispered a message for Maddie and me that will sustain me for the rest of my life,' he wrote.
Married At First Sight expert Mel Schilling has died aged 54 in London
The Australian psychologist-turned-dating expert spent her final days at the London home she shared with her husband of eight years, Gareth, and their 10-year-old daughter Maddie
'It took all of her remaining strength… Even then, her only thought was for Maddie and me.'
For me, the news is almost impossible to process.
I still remember the first time I met Mel.
In an industry where people can be up themselves, feel polished, rehearsed and guarded, she was none of those things. Mel was warm. She was kind. And, perhaps surprisingly to those who only knew her from television, she was a little shy.
Over the years, I was lucky enough to interview her countless times covering MAFS.
But what started as press chats quickly turned into something more genuine.
We'd run into each other outside of the usual media circuit, grab a coffee, sometimes even sneak in a quiet drink, and talk about everything from the show to life behind it.
Those were the moments where you really saw who she was.
In an industry where people can be up themselves, feel polished, rehearsed and guarded, she was none of those things. Mel was warm. She was kind. (Pictured in Bondi in 2023)
Over the years, I was lucky enough to interview her countless times covering MAFS. (Pictured with John Aiken, Alessandra Rampolla and Mel Schilling in October 2025)
The last time I interviewed Mel was in October 2025. She was excited to start talking about the upcoming season currently playing out on screens, which they had just wrapped filming
She absolutely loved her job. Not in a performative way, not for the cameras, but in a way that felt deeply personal. She cared about the people who walked into that experiment. She cared about getting it right. And more than anything, she cared about how relationships were portrayed to the public.
To viewers, she was one of the experts. But behind the scenes, she was the heart of the show. Everyone loved her.
Crew, contestants, publicists - there wasn't a bad word said about her.
The last time I interviewed Mel was in October last year. She was excited to start talking about the upcoming season currently playing out on screens, which they had just wrapped filming.
'What you are gonna see is people making mistakes, listening to us actually taking accountability and changing behavior. That's the stuff that gets us out of bed in the morning when we actually see a little of that this season,' she told me.
In January 2025 we spoke about her shock cancer diagnosis. She was in remission.
'I feel really strong,' she told me. 'I've got my energy back. I've got my spunk back… there's no stopping me now.'
That was Mel.
In January 2025 we spoke about her shock cancer diagnosis. She was in remission. 'I feel really strong,' she told me. 'I've got my energy back. I've got my spunk back… there's no stopping me now.' (Mel pictured in September 2024)
On this occasion, Mel was joined by her sister Beck, the pair were seen sharing a laugh while looking at something on Mel's phone
Even after everything she had been through, she was still looking forward. Still building. Still talking about new shows, new ideas, new opportunities. She spoke about her daughter with so much pride, about finding balance, about finally putting family and health first.
One conversation we had a while ago has stayed with me ever since
It was hard to hear.
Because if there's one thing I knew about Mel, it's that she deserved to be taken seriously.
She was incredibly emotionally intelligent. The kind of person who could read a room instantly, who understood people on a deeper level.
The last message she sent me now feels even more significant.
In January when I reached out to ask if she would doing interviews ahead of the new season or completely opting out, she replied: 'I do have some news to share and I will be happy to involve you in my announcement… I'll ask you to be patient while I work with the team on my tactics.'
Even then, she was thinking ahead. Still planning. Still working.
I had no idea that message would be one of our last.
When I heard the news, it hit me harder than I expected.
Absolutely devastating. Heartbreaking.
In January when I reached out to ask if she would doing interviews ahead of the new season or completely opting out, she replied: 'I do have some news to share and I will be happy to involve you in my announcement… I'll ask you to be patient while I work with the team on my tactics'
Because beyond the headlines and the tributes, I knew the person behind it all. The one who would take the time to ask how you were going. The one who would quietly support you. The one who made you feel like you mattered.
I truly believe she did that for me. And I suspect I wasn't the only one.
Mel had a way of making people feel seen. Not judged, not analysed - just understood. It's a rare quality.
There will be endless conversations about her impact on Married At First Sight, and rightly so. She helped shape the show into what it is today.
But for me, that's not what I'll remember most.
I'll remember the quiet chats. The honesty. The kindness.
Because in the end, that's who Mel Schilling really was.
Kind.
