Oprahs Ex: Interracial Romance Was Uncomfortable

Oprahs Ex: Interracial Romance Was Uncomfortable

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John Tesh is looking back on his brief romance with Winfrey, and the challenges they faced as an interracial couple in the 1970s.

The former Entertainment Tonight host, 73, opened up about dating Winfrey, 72, when the pair worked at competing local television stations in Nashville, .

During a recent interview with Page Six, Tesh spoke about how it was 'very uncomfortable back then for an African-American woman and a very, very white guy' to be dating.

He acknowledged that their relationship 'was unusual in the South.'

'My whole family grew up in the South, and so I was obviously aware of that,' he explained. 

Despite the social climate at the time, Tesh said they refused to let the outside noise define their relationship.

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John Tesh is looking back on his brief romance with Oprah Winfrey, and the challenges they faced as an interracial couple in the 1970s; seen in 2001

'It became a joke between us,' he explained, 'because we would work all day and then, like we really saw each other once a week, and she or I would say, "Hey, which restaurant do you want to empty tonight?"'

The pair briefly dated while building their careers in local news before eventually going their separate ways.

The former Entertainment Tonight host, 73, opened up about dating Winfrey, 72, when the pair worked at rival local television stations in Nashville, Tennessee (seen in 1978)

Tesh told Page Six that it was 'very uncomfortable back then for an African-American woman and a very, very white guy' to be dating (pictured in 1993)

In 2020, Winfrey wrote about their decades-long 'spiritual partnership' in her 'What I Know For Sure' column for O, The Oprah Magazine.

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As she looked back on their relationship, the star admitted that when she first met him, she thought he was a 'player' and 'too handsome' to be interested in her.

Winfrey also explained that Stedman was 'always with the same girlfriend' whenever she saw him around, so she 'didn't pay much attention' to him.

But that all changed when they were both visiting a mutual friend who was ill in 1986.

'We left together, and I asked if he wanted to get a beer,' she recalled. '(Yes, I drank a lot of beer then and wore cowboy boots every day.) He said he didn't drink. (Still doesn't—not one sip of nothin' alcoholic since I've known him.)

'I thought he was nice enough, but I wasn't that impressed,' she continued. 'He was polite, yes, and kind. The sort of guy who sits with an ailing friend. Tall and handsome, for sure. But actually too handsome, I thought, to be interested in me.

'I figured he must be a player. So did all my producers. They warned me not to get involved with that Stedman guy.'

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Winfrey said she was cautious about even pursuing a friendship with Stedman, but she had a change of heart after she learned he had broken up with his girlfriend and was asking about her dating status.

The two have been together ever since, and their relationship even survived a broken engagement - one that neither of them regrets.

Winfrey has been with her longtime partner Stedman Graham since 1986; seen in 2019

In 2020, Winfrey wrote about their decades-long 'spiritual partnership' in her 'What I Know For Sure' column for O, The Oprah Magazine (pictured in 1995)

'For years, there were hundreds of tabloid stories, weekly, on whether we would marry. In 1993, the moment after I said yes to his proposal, I had doubts,' she wrote.

'I realized I didn't actually want a marriage. I wanted to be asked. I wanted to know he felt I was worthy of being his missus, but I didn't want the sacrifices, the compromises, the day-in-day-out commitment required to make a marriage work. My life with the show was my priority, and we both knew it.

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'He and I agree that had we tied the marital knot, we would not still be together,' she continued. 'Our relationship works because he created an identity beyond being "Oprah's man" (he teaches Identity Leadership around the world and has written multiple books on the subject).

'And because we share all the values that matter (integrity being number one). And because we relish seeing the other fulfill and manifest their destiny and purpose.'

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