Michelle Elman, from This Morning, stands firm against letting past betrayals taint her trust in others – dumps fiancé who cheated on her.

This Morning star Michelle Elman has issued a strong message to her followers, after her announcement that she has split from her fiancé, when she discovered he was cheating on the same day he proposed.

The relationship expert, 30, shocked fans when she tearfully revealed her engagement had ended in less than 24 hours, after one of her followers told her that her partner of three years had been unfaithful.

Since the life coach bravely opened up about her experience, she has been flooded by a wave of public praise and support.

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And Michelle took to her Instagram on Thursday to urge people to focus on that outpouring of ‘compassion’, to see the world has ‘more good people than bad’.

In a video, she said that she ‘refused’ to let her heartbreak be the reason for people to say they can’t trust people, saying she doesn’t stand for that and doesn’t want that on her conscience.

This Morning star Michelle Elman has issued a strong message to her followers, after her announcement that she has split from her fiancé, when she discovered he was cheating on the same day he proposed

The relationship expert, 30, shocked fans when she tearfully revealed her engagement had ended in less than 24 hours, after one of her followers told her that her partner of three years had been unfaithful (pictured)

Since bravely opening up, she has been flooded by a wave of public support and urged people to focus on that outpouring of ‘compassion’, to see the world has ‘more good people than bad’

She began by stating: ‘I refuse to let you use me as the reason you do not trust people.

‘So if you’re looking at all the press surrounding me right now and all the things on my page and going, “This is why I don’t trust people, this is why men are trash, this is why I shouldn’t date” then listen to me because there is one quick fix that will solve all of this for you.’

Michelle explained: ‘I do not believe in this, I do not stand for it and I don’t want to be responsible for that impact on the world. 

‘What I will be responsible for is that when you interact with any human, whether platonically or romantically, there is a risk of getting hurt. 

‘The only thing that matters is that when you’ve loved and you’ve lost, you bounce back because you know you’re going to be okay. 

‘And if the worst consequence of all of this is I end up alone, then I get to spend the rest of my life with me. How lucky am I?’ 

She went on: ‘And so if you are thinking any of these things, go back to the original post, the one where I poured out my heart and put my vulnerability on the line. 

‘People could’ve judged with callousness and cruelty and instead met me with compassion – the majority of the world are not like my ex. 

In a video, she said that she ‘refused’ to let her heartbreak be the reason for people to say they can’t trust people, saying she doesn’t stand for that and doesn’t want that on her conscience

Captioning the video, Michelle added: ‘If people can show that kind of compassion to someone they’ve never met, then you must have hope in humanity’

‘There are more good people in the world than bad and you have to be able to focus on all of that love in the comment section rather than the one person who did you wrong, to remember that you can’t paint people with the same brush.’

She then laughed and pointed out: ‘If I can still say it’s worth falling in love and it’s only been three weeks, then you gotta know it’s true.’

Captioning the video, Michelle added: ‘There are 2,000 kind comments on that original post vs one person who did wrong and that’s not even counting the people who are in my DMs who didn’t feel comfortable to comment publically [sic]. 

‘If people can show that kind of compassion to someone they’ve never met, then you must have hope in humanity. 

‘And if that doesn’t work then four of my ex friends, reached out to just check I was OK even when we hadn’t spoken in years and some who I even had a massive fight with and yet the anger and tension between us dissipated in the face of this because good always triumphs over bad because the love and memories never fades. 

‘Please believe in it, even if you only do it for me so I don’t have to have that on my conscience ❤️’.

Michelle returned to This Morning on Wednesday, appearing as a guest instead of in her regular role as a relationships expert, to reveal the details of her shocking split.

She had shared a picture showing off her diamond ring and revealing the identity of her partner, Ben, for the first time last month, after he proposed.

Michelle returned to This Morning on Wednesday, appearing as a guest instead of in her regular role as a relationships expert, to reveal the details of her shocking split

But within an hour of posting the image celebrating her proposal on April 14, she received a message from one of her female followers, informing the influencer that ‘the love of her life’ had been cheating on her 

She captioned the happy picture, ‘I told you I would never post my boyfriend… MEET MY FIANCE’, after previously going to great lengths for years to hide his identity from the public eye.

But within an hour of posting the image celebrating her proposal on April 14, she received a message from one of her female followers, informing the influencer that ‘the love of her life’ had been cheating on her. 

The woman explained found Michelle’s now former partner on a dating site and spent the night with him in a hotel. 

Michelle told hosts Ben Shephard and Cat Deeley: ‘We met on a dating app, he was my first date after the pandemic. Love of my life, healthiest relationship I had ever had.

‘I was engaged and then a woman reached out and asked if he was my fiancé. I ended up speaking to her for an hour on the phone. He was on a dating app, he was on a business trip and yeah…’

When asked if she had any inkling of her partner’s infidelity, she said: ‘It’s the first question you get asked, “were there red flags, did you miss something?”

‘I fully back myself – I’m an emotionally intelligent, switched on woman. I have every tool in my tool kit to notice red flags. 

‘But if someone wants to lie to you, it doesn’t matter if you live together, work together, if they want to lie to you they will. 

Michelle became a motivational coach after living through her own childhood experiences of life-threatening health problems, long stays in hospital and fifteen complex surgeries that left her scarred, both mentally and physically 

Michelle – who kept her ex-boyfriend’s identity private until their engagement – also asked her followers not to try and track him down, saying she had forgiven him almost ‘instantly’ as while their relationship was over, she still loved him

‘Even looking back, wholeheartedly there were no red flags. The only thing in hindsight I could’ve done was go on his phone to find out. 

‘But in my mind as a lifecoach the moment you’ve gone on your phone the relationship is over, you’ve already lost because you don’t trust them.’

She went on to explain that her partner was with her when she got the first message from the woman about him being on a dating site.

She said: ‘He was with me when I got the first message. I thought it was a colleague. It took a while to figure out. My first reaction was shock and I kept saying please tell me first, I don’t want to find out from her.

‘Then it was screenshots of the dating profile and his number, I believed her from the get go, but I needed evidence. She told me the hotel, and I said put that in your email, and it came up, then he admitted it.’

‘He admitted it and to others as well but I think my reaction was just was “you have ruined a good thing, this is supposed to be happiest day of my life”.’

Michelle flew back to the UK over the weekend a day after revealing she had dumped her fiancé Ben for cheating on her.

The TV star said that she was not going to let her ex ‘drag down the joy’ her career brings after appearing on This Morning

The writer also revealed that the couple had been trying for a baby for several months before they had split, and said she had begun dating while away 

She had been on a solo trip ‘on the other side of the world’, going on dates while she was away yet has returned now to speak of her heartbreak.

Writing on Instagram, the TV personality said: ‘I flew back a day early because I didn’t expect all of this to blow up so much.

‘I was feeling quite powerless half way across the world with rubbish signal not being able to address all of this so I’m home now and I am choosing to speak to This Morning because they have been my greatest champion from day one.’

In a separate post, Michelle shared a clip of her appearing on This Morning last week despite going through her break-up.

The TV star said that she was not going to let her ex ‘drag down the joy’ her career brings.

It suggests the break-up took place a few weeks ago with Michelle only choosing to go public with the separation this weekend.

‘Last week I went on This Morning and it was the hardest thing I’ve had to do in a while but it was worth it,’ she wrote.

‘It reminded me of my power and he’s taken enough away from me so I wasn’t going to let him drag down the joy my career brings me too.

In the acknowledgement page of her latest book The Selfish Romantic, Michelle paid tribute to Ben telling her fans their ‘love story will always be [her] favourite’

‘Part of me wondered if it was too soon but the timing was too perfect to be a coincidence. The day they asked me to be on was the only morning I was free for three weeks and the only day I wasn’t staying with my sister or on my solo trip.’

She went on to thank those who work on This Morning – from the editors to make-up artists – for holding her together.

‘Everyone wrapped me in bubble wrap, kept me safe so I could go on air and be my best,’ she said.

‘Genuinely never felt more a part of the family to be surrounded by so much compassion and love and felt myself for the first time coming up for air.’

Michelle became a motivational coach after living through her own childhood experiences of life-threatening health problems, long stays in hospital and fifteen complex surgeries that left her scarred, both mentally and physically.

She had a brain tumour, a punctured intestine, an obstructed bowel, a cyst in her brain and a condition called hydrocephalus – where fluid builds up in the brain, causing, dangerous pressure that can be fatal if untreated.

Explaining her absence from social media last week, Michelle began: ‘I don’t know how to make this video so I’m just going to get into it. The last you heard from me I was engaged and I’m not anymore.

‘The day I posted that engagement photo is the day I found out he had been cheating on me and one of the women he was cheating on me with actually followed me and that’s how I found out.

‘She’s a lovely woman, and she didn’t know, and you’ve got to love his taste in women. You’ve got to laugh. We’re laughing and crying a lot over here.’

She continued: ‘The main thing people always say with cheating is ‘Did you know?’ And obviously not because I said yes to marrying him.

‘But also does it matter? I think what I’ve realised through all of this is if someone wants to actively deceive you they will.

‘When it comes to life coaches there’s this illusion that we’re perfect, we’re all knowing or that we have our lives together and it’s just not true.

‘I’ve always said I’m just five steps ahead and that’s how I am able to teach other people. The only difference is I have all the tools and resources to make sure I’m okay right now and that I know I’m going to learn from this.’

Breaking into tears, she added: ‘My own life coach says we never let a good crisis go to waste, and this is a crisis. I think I am a good life coach because I f*** up more than you and I learn from it.’

She then corrected herself and said: ‘Actually, let me rephrase that one because I didn’t f**k up – he did. And he ruined a really good thing. And it was a good thing – when it was good, it was really good.’

Addressing fans who have followed her journey, she said: ‘I know a lot of people follow me for positive representation around dating and then healthy relationships and knowing that you have chronic illnesses or are plus size, all the things that I am, you can also find love.

Michelle had been single for eight years when she began dating her former partner in August 2021. Opening up about their relationship back in November, she shared a picture of them swimming together and explained he had been her first date after the pandemic 

‘And for those people listening, please keep that hope because I still believe in love. I still believe it’s worth it and to be honest if I could go back and swipe right, knowing how it would end I would still go back and make the same decision.’

Michelle – who kept her ex-boyfriend’s identity private until their engagement – also asked her followers not to try and track him down, saying she had forgiven him almost ‘instantly’ as while their relationship was over, she still loved him.

She explained: ‘This was a person I loved for many years and still do love in many ways and so calling him names or chucking the ring out or pouring his wine down the sink, or any other suggestions have not been helping me.

‘And frankly I wouldn’t be a life coach if I didn’t believe people could learn and grow from their mistakes. 

‘It was a pretty f***ing big mistake, but it was a mistake and people are not their behaviours.’

Replying to a fan who asked if she had considered forgiving her ex, Michelle elaborated: ‘I already do forgive him. It was pretty much instant for me because he is the person who has loved me most in the world and this has really taught me that unconditional love does exist because I do still love him. 

‘The love is unconditional, the relationship is not and I won’t be staying but I do forgive him. 

‘I’ve been comparing it to a bank account. All the love he has poured into me in the last three years has put coins in the bank, his cheating drained the bank account but I’m not leaving the relationship in debt’

Writing for the Daily Mail in January last year , Michelle explained that her first relationship had been ’emotionally abusive’ and that she had dated ‘a slew of awful men’ 

At the end of her video, Michelle put on a brave face and said she was ‘healing’.

She said: ‘All of this f***ing sucks but I always say this or something better. So I guess I’m due something better.’

She added: ‘And another sentence that’s been helping me is that you know how everyone says you are who you attract? I just don’t believe that’s true, it’s not about who you attract, its who you keep.

‘So I am single and can’t wait to share part of my single journey at some point, but for the moment I am definitely healing.’

Taking one last sly dig at her ex, she quipped: ‘I mean you’ve got to laugh, I was engaged for 24 hours. At least the ring was beautiful. Even if it didn’t fit.’

Captioning the clip, she said: ‘This is where I’ve been. This is the longest I’ve gone without posting in over a decade and I’ve missed you. I’m OK (or at least, I will be!) and I’m ready to come back.

‘One of the main reasons I waited so long to share him is because I never wanted to make this kind of video and yet I don’t regret it because that’s how I found out and wow, am I so glad I did. 

‘So grateful to the wonderful woman who was brave enough to send me a message letting me know.

‘I’m really putting my heart on my sleeve here and this is the most vulnerable I have ever got on here. Sending love to anyone who has a similar story. Onwards and upwards’.

Michelle later took to her Instagram Stories to thank her followers for their outpouring of support with a selfie, and explained that she was on a solo holiday.

The writer also revealed that the couple had been trying for a baby for several months before they had split, and said she had begun dating while away.

She wrote: ‘I’m so overcome by all the love. Thank you for all the kindness. Do you remember when I said I was going to book a solo trip? ‘The part I didn’t tell you is because we had been trying for a bay for three months so I wanted to do it before I was pregnant.

‘So I’m on the solo trip now. Coming back tomorrow. Grateful I’m not pregnant and also have gone on dates while here.’

Michelle had been single for eight years when she began dating her former partner in August 2021.

Opening up about their relationship back in November, she shared a picture of them swimming together and explained he had been her first date after the pandemic.

She wrote: ‘I’ve always hated the narrative of ‘I knew’ so to be clear, I didn’t know on the first date. I didn’t know a year in. It took me a long time to be sure and that’s not a him problem.

‘For years, I had a faulty picker when it came to the men in my life so I took this slow, careful and purposely didn’t project a future together and focused on living in the moment.

‘This year I also wrote a book about him, just joking it’s not about him its about the eight years I was single. How I learned to date without feeling bad about myself. The last chapter was about him.

‘When you’re single you think being in a relationship is going to change your life but it’s just not the case.

‘Life is about peaks and troughs. He’s a bright spark in the trough, and it’s nice to have someone to tell the details to in your life.’

Writing for the Daily Mail in January last year, Michelle explained that her first relationship had been ’emotionally abusive’ and that she had dated ‘a slew of awful men’.

She penned: ‘Yet I stayed with some of them because I thought I was lucky to have any relationship. 

‘Women who look like me can’t be picky, I thought — and I’d sit, phone in my hand, waiting desperately for a crumb of a text.’

She explained she realised how unhappy she was and changed her dating strategy and outlook.

Michelle wrote: ‘Today, I am in a relationship with someone who values me for who I am and doesn’t call me ‘high-maintenance’ the moment I ask for my needs to be met.

‘Is it the fairytale? I can’t say (I don’t think anyone truly can) but what I can say is that it is far healthier than any relationship I could have imagined for myself ten years ago.’