Lily Allen Reaches Out to Ex David Harbour After Suicidal Struggles Linked to His Affair

Lily Allen has extended an olive branch to her ex husband David Harbour after revealing she became suicidal following his three-year affair.

The singer, 40, called time on her relationship with the Stranger Things star, 50, in December after four years of marriage.

Lily was left in ‘agony’ when she allegedly discovered the actor had a secret profile on the celebrity dating app Raya.

The pop star joined the app herself, pretending to be ‘looking for women’ – and allegedly found that David had already set up a dating profile.

Their split led to her to check into a £8,000-a-week trauma treatment centre to focus on her mental health.

Now in a more positive place, Lily has reflected on their relationship, admitting there were still ‘lots of good things about it’ despite the heartbreak.

She told British Vogue: ‘My kids had an amazing experience living in America for five years, and I have a lot of compassion for my ex-husband. 

‘I think we all suffer.’

It comes after Lily revealed she ‘came close to relapsing on drink and drugs and developed a really, really bad problem with food’ as a result of her split from David.

She said she knew she needed to check herself into a facility when she realised she ‘wanted to die’. 

The singer told the publication: ‘I’ve had real problems with food over the past few years.’ [In the thick of the break up] ‘it got really, really, really bad.’

The star, who has been sober for six years, added: ‘The feelings of despair that I was experiencing were so strong. The last time that I felt anything like that, drugs and alcohol were my way out, so it was excruciating to sit with those [feelings] and not to use them.’ 

On putting herself into a residential facility, she shared: ‘I’ve been into those places before against my will and I feel like that’s progress in itself. [on her self awareness] That’s strength. 

‘I knew that the things I was feeling were too extreme to be able to manage, and I was like, ‘I need some time away.”

In March, as she held a live recording of her podcast, Lily said she was still grappling with her breakup.

She admitted: ‘I am not over it. I am sort of running away. Maybe I will have a nervous breakdown.’

In August, Lily confirmed she’s moving out of her New York townhouse following her split from David.

The former couple moved into the art deco home in Brooklyn in 2020 shortly after their Las Vegas wedding, with the beloved property even featuring in Architectural Digest.

It was then revealed last December that their relationship was over, with reports soon following that the Stranger Things actor had cheated on the singer.

And in a bid for a fresh start amid her marriage woes, Lily has purchased an ex-council flat in London, and recently told how she’s thrown herself into decorating which has ‘helped’ her through her ‘hard time’.

The Smile hitmaker told The Mirror how she’s been taking inspiration from interior design magazines, remarking: ‘I’m really enjoying those at the moment. I’ve obviously had quite a hard time and that’s really helped me’.

Speaking on her Miss Me? podcast back in March, Lily opened up about her new property, which she’ll live in with her two daughters, as she chatted to co-host Miquita Oliver.

She shared: ‘This flat that I’ve bought, is in a social housing building, I have kind of given myself a ‘get out’ clause because it is slap bang in the area which I grew up in, so I don’t feel like I am coming from outside and coming into the area and gentrifying it.’

Lily added: ‘I have wanted to live in this building since I was a baby, it’s been a dream of mine forever and finally a flat became available in here and I was in a position to buy it and I did. But I know people have got judgement around it.’

Elsewhere, the stunning New York abode Lily left behind features an eye-catching tiger-print media room and a luxury kitchen inspired by The Godfather.

While it also boasts floral Parisian-inspired rooms and a stunning walk-in wardrobe filled with designer goods

Lily and ex David completed renovations on the property in 2023 with the help of interior designer Billy Cotton and architect Ben Bischoff, with the then couple giving a tour to Architectural Digest.

However, in May, Lily admitted she felt ‘feeling incredibly low’ and lonely in her New York City home as she candidly opened up following her break-up.

The songwriter who confirmed her split from David in January, explained that she has been feeling ‘extremely heavy’ as she ‘doesn’t have that much to do here’ in the city.

See the full feature in the November issue of British Vogue, available via digital download and on newsstands from Tuesday 21st October.