Abbie Chatfield has lashed out at brides who expect guests to pay for destination weddings and hens dos.
Speaking on her It’s A Lot podcast, the 29-year-old did not hold back with her strong opinion on the subject.
‘Am I being a c***t? I’m gonna get bullied online for this. Why is the bride not paying for the hens?’ she ranted.
‘Genuinely? When I heard this, I got lock jaw’ she said, referring to the expectation that friends pay for destination hens parties.
‘The entitlement of thinking that you are owed that everyone else organises and pays for you to have a little party’ Abbie raved.
‘Why? Because you’re getting married. Sad, patriarchy, sad! The leave, as well. The annual leave.
The former Bachelor star said that friends cannot tell brides that they wont attend, or cant afford to, as it inspires anger.
‘When people do that, do you understand the wrath they endure? Anything for her! Her beautiful big day! I can’t afford 4000 f***ing dollars on d***k straws and with her groom’s face on it!’
Abbie Chatfield (pictured) has lashed out at brides who expect guests to pay for destination weddings and hens dos. Speaking on her It’s A Lot podcast, the 29-year-old did not hold back
The podcaster further said in her caption on Instagram: ‘I genuinely didn’t know that people a) had destination hens AND weddings, and b) the maid of honour had to organise it??
‘What is going on???? I also didn’t know the bride didn’t have to pay for any of this?? WHAT IS GOING ON?’
Abbie then asked: ‘Do you think people should be expected to pay for a destination hens and wedding while the bride pays ZERO???’
It seems plenty of people agreed with Abbie in her comments, with one writing: ‘Don’t get me started on an engagement party, and having to buy a gift for that event too. What is the point of an engagement party?!?!
‘Cool, you’re getting married, I’ll catch you at the wedding – I shouldn’t have to dress up twice, buy gifts twice and celebrate your marriage twice.’
‘The entitlement of thinking that you are owed that everyone else organises and pays for you to have a little party’ Abbie raved. ‘Why? Because you’re getting married. Sad, patriarchy, sad!’
It seems plenty of people agreed with Abbie in her comments, with one writing: ‘Don’t get me started on an engagement party, and having to buy a gift for that event too. What is the point of an engagement party?!?!’
Another said: ‘What about the tradition of the bridesmaids having to pay for their dress? I think that’s a bit rich too. It’s YOUR wedding, YOU want me to be a bridesmaid but I have to buy a crazy expensive dress I’ll only wear once?’
‘It’s all too much now. There’s something for everything now. Engagement party, bridal shower and hens day, the wedding, baby showers, gender reveals. So much money. Nothing is simple anymore’ one more wrote.
Someone else added: ‘It got sooo much worse once everyone started doing it for the insta pics rather than to just have a fun night with their gals!’
Yet another said: ‘Hard agree. I have never ONCE been to a hens weekend that I enjoyed and I’m convinced everyone just does these elaborate weekends out of feeling like they have to’.
‘If you have a destination wedding you should be downplaying events beforehand knowing full well everyone is paying extra for flights/accom etc. To think they would ALSO do a destination hens is wildly entitled’ wrote someone else.
